It may surprise people to know that lawyers are no different to the rest of us. We know that we need a Will but put off making one. That was me until two years ago. I never got round to it. I knew that I needed to make one but could always think of a reason not to. After all I was not going to die anytime soon so what was the rush?
I don’t have kids so I didn’t need to worry about who would look after them or to make financial provision for that. I don’t have a particularly complex web of properties that need dealing with. My Labrador would need thinking about but I am not that old so it didn’t seem urgent to me. Sadly dogs don’t live anywhere near long enough but I have yet to find a way to address that problem.
But I was missing the point and, when I finally stopped putting it off, I realised how important it was. I might not have children but I do have loved ones. There are people I care about who are not related to me and would have received nothing as of right if I died without one. It felt good to know that I was able to do something to let them know what they meant to me.
I watched close relatives struggle to work out what funeral arrangements they needed to make for someone who had not left instructions. I was able to spare my family and friends that task by setting out what I want to happen. I found that rather than being upsetting to think about it was a bit like planning a good party. I could pick the music (very important to me as I don’t want to be forever associated with the wrong cover version of a certain song) and make sure that there would be food and drink for anyone who attended.
I realised that I was not making a Will for my benefit but that I was having one last conversation with those I loved. I could make sure that they had an easier time of it and that people would know that they mattered to me. Like it or not very few of us will nail the final words as they do in the movies, but by making a will I had made sure I left no doubt.